We’re plodding along ;-)

My blogging habits have become somewhat sporadic over the last few months. I’ve got a few blogs in the pipeline, but not ones that seem to be coming together easily to be honest. Our desktop computer died a few months back, so although I can write drafts on my phone, I can only post to the blog when Mr Six doesn’t need the laptop for work stuff. But it’s also because we have changes afoot in our lives and it hasn’t felt like the right time to write about them until now. I’m not good […]

Marking their territory

This morning I had to talk to our youngest two about ‘marking their territory’. I used the imagery of how cats and dogs frequently wee when they’re outside because they use their urine to mark their territory, to let other cats and dogs know that this is their turf. Mr Six and I have been discussing these behaviours this last few days, as we have noticed distinctly territorial behaviours happening. Mr Six teases me about comparing them to animal behaviours (which I understand), but they help me to understand and call out for myself what […]

Splitting

“Mummy, why does Little Legs want to be so mean to me and try to tear Happy Dreamer and my bestest cousin away from me all the time?” Yesterday afternoon Mr Six and I had our first PAS session. Time with our new PAS SW, who will hereafter be known as ‘The Play Lady’. Last night we had put Little Legs to bed and were talking to the big three about the PAS sessions that will be coming up. We revisited why and how Little Legs had come home to be part of our family. […]

Mummy’s solo outing

On Monday this week I went out for the day. By myself. Totally without company. Sans enfants! A few weeks ago, Mr Six had suggested that he have the girls for the day one Monday, so that I could go out and have some time to myself. As we home educate, that doesn’t happen very often. It can get complicated enough going to an essential appointment unaccompanied (doctor, dentist, etc) when you are home every day with four children! But Mr Six was keen for me to have some alone time. Some head space. A bit of time […]

Sisters

We’ve been blogging for about eight months now. We blog about our family life, our adoption journey, our faith and our church family, home educating our girls and other parenting bits and pieces that may come along. During those eight months we have had frequent conversations, both before and since starting the blog, about what is off limits, what we wouldn’t or shouldn’t write about, how the girls might feel about the blog as they grow older and both they and their friends have access to the internet. This post is the kind of post that we […]

Wash baskets!

We home educate. Most of you will already know that. The girls and I especially, spend huge swathes of time in each other’s pockets. We generally cope fine with that. I use Quiet Time most days, where the big girls go off to their rooms to do something quietly. Read a book. Play together. Listen to an audio book. As long as it’s quiet and upstairs, I’m good with it. Little Legs generally has tv time in the playroom. So I get the lounge to relax and catch my breath for a short while. To […]

Blending birth and adopted children

One of the things I have found difficult to learn about, read up on, get ahead on during our adoption journey has been blending birth and adopted children. There are a few books, such as ‘Oh brother!’ and ‘Adopting a brother or sister‘ . But nothing that really floated my boat, or that I thought would work for our girls. I’ve mentioned before that we prepared our girls by reworking BAAF’s ‘We are fostering’ workbook. I contacted BAAF at the time and they were happy for us to use their workbook as a template for […]

Tiredness abounds

Tiredness affects our girls in different ways. The girls all had a very late (for them) night last night. We had an important event at church, which both of us needed to attend. So we took the girls with us. The sat in the lounge of sofas and watched Kung Fu Panda 3 and ate popcorn, snuggled together under blankets. They did ace! Using a babysitter remains a complicated thing for us at the moment, so we haven’t tried anyone beyond my sister or brother in law. Little Legs is so up and down with […]

Bittersweet for all

Throughout the ‘pre-approval’ phase of the adoption process, we were warned about the more difficult aspects of the process: invasive questions about our relationship, our finances, our parenting skills. Then we were advised that we might be in for a long wait for a potential link, due to our family being slightly unconventional: already having three birth children, home educating, being in leadership of a church. During prep groups, conversations were had with regards to common preconceptions that prospective adopters have about the children waiting for matches. About the numbers of children awaiting adoption from […]