We’re doing it!

Little Legs came home aged three and a half. We’ve just recently passed the two year mark of her coming home. At the time she came home, her brilliant foster carers had been contemplating taking away her dummy, but had changed their minds once we were matched. During Introductions we had chatted with her foster Mummy about it and agreed that she probably needed it now more than ever. Over the last two years Little Legs has revealed herself to be a very sucky little girl – meaning that like many children who experienced early […]

Watoto: what a 24 hours!

The Watoto choir arrived on Friday lunchtime and left on Saturday lunchtime. The concert at our church was on Friday evening. Our time with them was brief, but they have left a huge imprint on our hearts. On Friday afternoon when we arrived at church, the choir had not long been there and the kids were generally really shy and quiet. They did some sound checking and their team of Aunties and Uncles were setting up for the evening event. Little Legs stayed very close by me, with her hands over her ears and a look […]

Mummy’s solo outing

On Monday this week I went out for the day. By myself. Totally without company. Sans enfants! A few weeks ago, Mr Six had suggested that he have the girls for the day one Monday, so that I could go out and have some time to myself. As we home educate, that doesn’t happen very often. It can get complicated enough going to an essential appointment unaccompanied (doctor, dentist, etc) when you are home every day with four children! But Mr Six was keen for me to have some alone time. Some head space. A bit of time […]

The search for PAS continues…(support and understanding part two)

I know I have it right in saying that the placing Local Authority (LA) retains responsibility for our youngest daughter and for assessing her needs for three years post placement. This is not our immediate Local Authority, though it is not a million miles away from where we are living. I know I have it right in saying that whilst the LA are responsibility for assessing her (and our family’s) needs, they do not have to meet the needs they have assessed. I know I have it right in saying that the Adoption Support Fund […]

The need for support and understanding

A couple of weeks ago, Little Legs was under the weather and subsequently came out with some blisters, which I blogged about last week. So it may have been feeling under the weather that started it. Or it might not. As with much of this Trauma stuff, we never know what she’s trying to process. Or what’s playing on her mind. Or what she’s emotionally sorting through at any one time.Trik Android But right at this moment, she’s a sad, angry, frustrated and confused little girl. And then she’s sweet and gorgeous and happy. Singing […]

The tell tale blister

Little Legs has the constitution of an ox! Since she came home sixteen months ago, she has been ill once I think. She rarely gets sniffly, has had one 24 hour episode of being poorly with one vomit. She hasn’t once been blocked up enough overnight to struggle with breathing through her nose whilst keeping her dummy in her mouth. Last weekend she was spiking a temperature and asking for Movicol?! I figured out she is so used to me asking one of her sisters if she has taken her Movicol today, that she had it […]

The path we chose – home education and adoption

We didn’t always intend to home educate. Neither of us had ever met anyone who had been home educated or who was home educating. Both of us had grown up within the mainstream education system. However we made a significant geographical move as our first child turned one and were suddenly immersed in a friendship circle of adults who had been home educated and families who were home educating. We had some great friends who were home educating from the start and whose children were such positive examples of a different way of learning. Our […]

Developmental gains

I wrote today’s blog in a fairly clinical way. Deliberately. Mr Six and I have been discussing the progress that Little Legs has made since she joined our family. I thought it would be interesting to review that progress in a way that highlighted where she was when she came home alongside demonstrating how far she has come. Little Legs’ was in foster care for an unusual length of time for a young child who was removed from her birth family at a very early age. Her medical profile detailed a wide range of developmental delays, […]

Together into the unknown

Fight, flight or freeze…our Little Legs is a proper feisty little monkey! Ever since she came home just over a year ago, Little Legs’ response to a threat, an unknown, a lack of sleep, an emotional experience, has been to fight. Now she isn’t a violent child at all. We get rumbling low level aggression, usually targetted at one of her big sisters, occasionally at me or Mr Six.  Mostly hitting, scratching, hair pulling, some biting. Her go to for expressing her fear is usually raging meltdowns. Screaming, spitting, crying, shouting. Bless her, she often rages […]

Thankful

This afternoon, reflecting on our Big Day Out last week, I am thankful. Thankful for our girls. Our four beautiful, amazing, funny, thoughtful, caring, passionate, giggly, kind, loving girls. Thankful for our Little Legs, who finally had her day in Court. A friendly, welcoming, celebratory fifteen minutes in Court. Thankful for a lovely Court Clerk who put everyone at ease and guided us through. For a Judge who was welcoming, cheerful, engaging and easygoing. Thankful for family and friends who came to celebrate and mark our moment in court as the Six Family. For their support, […]