The Big Man

It’s that time of year again. I tend to spend November intermittently grumpy to be honest. No, I’m not ready for Christmas. No, I dont want to listen to Christmas music yet. No, I havent wrapped any presents…I honestly haven’t bought any! I cant think that far ahead. I often get cards and wrapping paper in the January sales but that’s as far as it goes. My Dad’s birthday is the middle of December. When my sister and I were kids, nothing Christmassy happened in our house until two days after his birthday. Which meant […]

Think Toddler

As an Occupational Therapist (in my pre-home ed, pre-adoption former life), my pre-registration training included a module on Child Development, which included lectures and some study time around the developmental stages of children. Once I qualified, I quickly settled in Paediatrics as my area of interest/knowledge/growing expertise. During my twelve years as a Paeds OT, I attended a number of excellent courses focussed both on child development norms and the variations we would often see amongst the children on our caseloads. These courses often focussed on physical, emotional, social, psychosocial, linguistic, cognitive and sensory development. […]

The view from here

It has been a while. Not because I, we, have nothing to say. More because there’s too much to say. Too much inside my head that I’m mulling over, dreaming about, stressing about, excited about, or processing. Much has changed and is changing for us. For the first time in almost twenty years together, neither of us are involved in church leadership of any kind. So far it has progressively felt right but bewildering, stressful, tiring, good, relaxing and still right. We are enjoying focussing on us, our family, our dreams for what’s next. Sundays […]

This is personal.

I’ve been brewing this post for a looooong while. Sitting on it until I felt I knew more clearly what I wanted to write about. This is personal. And it is political. And it is current. We are living in the middle of the consequences of austerity. And we are hanging on to the remains of what have always (in my lifetime) been pretty excellent healthcare experiences. Standing in A&E with my twelve year old on a trolley two weeks ago brought much into sharp focus. The relief of being able to access a free […]

We’re plodding along ;-)

My blogging habits have become somewhat sporadic over the last few months. I’ve got a few blogs in the pipeline, but not ones that seem to be coming together easily to be honest. Our desktop computer died a few months back, so although I can write drafts on my phone, I can only post to the blog when Mr Six doesn’t need the laptop for work stuff. But it’s also because we have changes afoot in our lives and it hasn’t felt like the right time to write about them until now. I’m not good […]

We’re doing it!

Little Legs came home aged three and a half. We’ve just recently passed the two year mark of her coming home. At the time she came home, her brilliant foster carers had been contemplating taking away her dummy, but had changed their minds once we were matched. During Introductions we had chatted with her foster Mummy about it and agreed that she probably needed it now more than ever. Over the last two years Little Legs has revealed herself to be a very sucky little girl – meaning that like many children who experienced early […]

My cousin

My cousin is the stuff of legend. My cousin has shaped so much of my life, from being so very young to the present day. I cannot remember life without him being in it. My cousin is loud and funny. My cousin taught me how to be myself. My cousin taught me how to fight injustice. My cousin taught me how to be a better person. My cousin taught me how to love my God with all my heart, soul, mind and strength. My cousin taught me how to treat other people. My cousin taught me […]

A few of my favourite things

A piping hot cup of strong, milky tea. The feel of the wind racing past when I ride my bike. The sound of my kids laughing. The strong arms of Mr Six around me. Sunshine on my face. That moment every morning when I put my head under a hot shower. Fresh crusty bread, straight from the oven. Stealing away, even for half an hour, with my gorgeous family. The sound of the waves on the beach. Those still moments of intense quiet, when everyone is happy doing something. A good book, telling a great […]

What does she need?

Yesterday was a ‘tricky’ day. I sat drafting this in Little Legs’ bedroom praying that she would drop off soon (she didn’t), reflecting on what she needs right now. We had another tricky hour this morning, despite twelve solid hours sleep from 9pm to 9am. She woke dysregulated and picked up where she left off. I can’t quite get to the bottom of whats unsettling her. But that’s ok. I don’t need to know for now. I would like to know! But I don’t need to know. What I need to know is what does she […]

Not quite ‘There’. Yet.

An awesome adopter friend wrote this beautiful and insightful post this week, about why our kids find it hard to relax and feel safe. No matter how often we reassure them and verbalise this in their early days (and years), there will likely be anxiety around loss for years to come. I read her post whilst I was sitting on the landing outside Little Legs’ bedroom door for the second night in a row, as we try to pull back on bedtime shenanigans, after weeks of her struggling to let go and just sleep. That […]