Splitting

“Mummy, why does Little Legs want to be so mean to me and try to tear Happy Dreamer and my bestest cousin away from me all the time?” Yesterday afternoon Mr Six and I had our first PAS session. Time with our new PAS SW, who will hereafter be known as ‘The Play Lady’. Last night we had put Little Legs to bed and were talking to the big three about the PAS sessions that will be coming up. We revisited why and how Little Legs had come home to be part of our family. […]

Our 2016

Mr Six and I were chatting last night…well around 1am, after we had seen in the New Year and finally got the girls into bed. Chatting about our 2016. We were reminding each other of the reality of how 2016 was for our little family; about all the great things that we have experienced or worked hard at over the year. He was listing the adventures and fun stuff we have done, while I was selecting adjectives such as ‘challenging’, ‘exhausting’, ‘adventurous’ and ‘full to emotional capacity’! We’ve seen and read lots of blog posts and media pieces about […]

Mummy’s solo outing

On Monday this week I went out for the day. By myself. Totally without company. Sans enfants! A few weeks ago, Mr Six had suggested that he have the girls for the day one Monday, so that I could go out and have some time to myself. As we home educate, that doesn’t happen very often. It can get complicated enough going to an essential appointment unaccompanied (doctor, dentist, etc) when you are home every day with four children! But Mr Six was keen for me to have some alone time. Some head space. A bit of time […]

Sisters

We’ve been blogging for about eight months now. We blog about our family life, our adoption journey, our faith and our church family, home educating our girls and other parenting bits and pieces that may come along. During those eight months we have had frequent conversations, both before and since starting the blog, about what is off limits, what we wouldn’t or shouldn’t write about, how the girls might feel about the blog as they grow older and both they and their friends have access to the internet. This post is the kind of post that we […]

The search for PAS continues…(support and understanding part two)

I know I have it right in saying that the placing Local Authority (LA) retains responsibility for our youngest daughter and for assessing her needs for three years post placement. This is not our immediate Local Authority, though it is not a million miles away from where we are living. I know I have it right in saying that whilst the LA are responsibility for assessing her (and our family’s) needs, they do not have to meet the needs they have assessed. I know I have it right in saying that the Adoption Support Fund […]

The need for support and understanding

A couple of weeks ago, Little Legs was under the weather and subsequently came out with some blisters, which I blogged about last week. So it may have been feeling under the weather that started it. Or it might not. As with much of this Trauma stuff, we never know what she’s trying to process. Or what’s playing on her mind. Or what she’s emotionally sorting through at any one time.Trik Android But right at this moment, she’s a sad, angry, frustrated and confused little girl. And then she’s sweet and gorgeous and happy. Singing […]

The tell tale blister

Little Legs has the constitution of an ox! Since she came home sixteen months ago, she has been ill once I think. She rarely gets sniffly, has had one 24 hour episode of being poorly with one vomit. She hasn’t once been blocked up enough overnight to struggle with breathing through her nose whilst keeping her dummy in her mouth. Last weekend she was spiking a temperature and asking for Movicol?! I figured out she is so used to me asking one of her sisters if she has taken her Movicol today, that she had it […]

What’s in a name

Little Legs had lived with her foster family for practically all her life when we met her. She was three and a half years old. I had spoken on the phone to her Foster Mummy a few weeks before intros were due to start and had a lengthy discussion about how much Little Legs knew and understood about her planned adoption. Her Foster Mummy felt that Little Legs didn’t really have much of a grasp on what was about to happen. Her Social Worker hadn’t really done any preparation work with her and there was […]

The path we chose – home education and adoption

We didn’t always intend to home educate. Neither of us had ever met anyone who had been home educated or who was home educating. Both of us had grown up within the mainstream education system. However we made a significant geographical move as our first child turned one and were suddenly immersed in a friendship circle of adults who had been home educated and families who were home educating. We had some great friends who were home educating from the start and whose children were such positive examples of a different way of learning. Our […]

The best kind of influence

We may not always like it, but our lives display the influences of people whose paths have crossed with ours over the years. From family to friends and even acquaintances, the way that people around us live their lives will impact how we choose to live ours. Just reading this paragraph will likely stir memories of the people who have most impacted your life. I grew up in a suburban area of South Manchester. I had an awesome Mum and Dad (still have my awesome Dad!) and a fab little sister. We lived in a semi detached […]