We do love Christmas.

As I was writing the last blog I noticed that most of our posts in the run up to Christmas seemed to highlight some of the difficulties we face during the festive season. I thought it important to balance that out and write a little about how much we love Christmas. Christmas for us begins sometime in early November when I catch the girls singing Jingle Bells in the back of the car. Our general rule is that all Christmas related activity is restricted to December. Come the 1st of December I am happy for […]

Christmas guilt (a bit of a rant)

“Mummy, will Santa bring me any Christmas presents? Cos I havent been very kind to my sisters today.” Last week we took our big girls to see the new Star Wars movie, The Last Jedi. Little Legs went to spend the morning with my sister and our two foster nephews at my sister’s house. They had a fun time and watched Arthur Christmas (the naughty and nice list trigger) and had cinema style snacks 😃 The big girls and I went to pick up Little Legs in the early afternoon and we’d talked about keeping […]

The Big Man

It’s that time of year again. I tend to spend November intermittently grumpy to be honest. No, I’m not ready for Christmas. No, I dont want to listen to Christmas music yet. No, I havent wrapped any presents…I honestly haven’t bought any! I cant think that far ahead. I often get cards and wrapping paper in the January sales but that’s as far as it goes. My Dad’s birthday is the middle of December. When my sister and I were kids, nothing Christmassy happened in our house until two days after his birthday. Which meant […]

Think Toddler

As an Occupational Therapist (in my pre-home ed, pre-adoption former life), my pre-registration training included a module on Child Development, which included lectures and some study time around the developmental stages of children. Once I qualified, I quickly settled in Paediatrics as my area of interest/knowledge/growing expertise. During my twelve years as a Paeds OT, I attended a number of excellent courses focussed both on child development norms and the variations we would often see amongst the children on our caseloads. These courses often focussed on physical, emotional, social, psychosocial, linguistic, cognitive and sensory development. […]

We’re plodding along ;-)

My blogging habits have become somewhat sporadic over the last few months. I’ve got a few blogs in the pipeline, but not ones that seem to be coming together easily to be honest. Our desktop computer died a few months back, so although I can write drafts on my phone, I can only post to the blog when Mr Six doesn’t need the laptop for work stuff. But it’s also because we have changes afoot in our lives and it hasn’t felt like the right time to write about them until now. I’m not good […]

We’re doing it!

Little Legs came home aged three and a half. We’ve just recently passed the two year mark of her coming home. At the time she came home, her brilliant foster carers had been contemplating taking away her dummy, but had changed their minds once we were matched. During Introductions we had chatted with her foster Mummy about it and agreed that she probably needed it now more than ever. Over the last two years Little Legs has revealed herself to be a very sucky little girl – meaning that like many children who experienced early […]

Her mind is whirring…

Think of those nights when you get into bed and as soon as your head hits the pillow, there’s a veritable list of vitally important tasks that should have been done weeks ago streaming through your head. Think of those nights when you wake with a start, having heard ‘a noise’ in the middle of the night. Your heart is pounding. Your mouth is dry. You are on high alert as you listen for other unusual noises. It takes what feels like lifetime for your heart rate to slow and for your brain to switch […]

What does she need?

Yesterday was a ‘tricky’ day. I sat drafting this in Little Legs’ bedroom praying that she would drop off soon (she didn’t), reflecting on what she needs right now. We had another tricky hour this morning, despite twelve solid hours sleep from 9pm to 9am. She woke dysregulated and picked up where she left off. I can’t quite get to the bottom of whats unsettling her. But that’s ok. I don’t need to know for now. I would like to know! But I don’t need to know. What I need to know is what does she […]

Not quite ‘There’. Yet.

An awesome adopter friend wrote this beautiful and insightful post this week, about why our kids find it hard to relax and feel safe. No matter how often we reassure them and verbalise this in their early days (and years), there will likely be anxiety around loss for years to come. I read her post whilst I was sitting on the landing outside Little Legs’ bedroom door for the second night in a row, as we try to pull back on bedtime shenanigans, after weeks of her struggling to let go and just sleep. That […]

To push the button or leave well alone…

When I was university, I had a friend who swore by Sudocrem. Whenever she got a little spot popping up, she’d whip out the Sudocrem and smear a bit over the affected area to try and soothe it away. I also had another friend who would simply attack a spot at any and every opportunity, trying to squeeze out the bad stuff! Is it better to go with a couple of weeks of soreness without it coming to a head before it fades away? Or to get the bad stuff out at the first available […]